Today is your mother’s – and future mother-in-law’s – birthday! She can no longer say she is with an older man. She’s
50 just like me as we continue this incredible journey God has laid out
before us all those many years ago when we met as 18-year-olds.
I
know Anton and Ayla have heard parts of this story over the years, but
it is part of the journey that led both of us to pray daily for our two
children’s future
spouses since both Anton and Ayla were infants.
My
sophomore year in high school, I began praying for my future spouse
every day in front of the mirror in the bathroom before I left for school. I
prayed for everything:
beauty, brains, a heart for God as well as certain physical
characteristics. You name it, I asked Him for it. God
answered every request and then some. Jill will say He didn’t … She
will say: “I’m not tall, long-legged and love sports.” But God, of
course, knows better.
If Jill loved sports and athletics, I would not have grown and been as
well-rounded without all of the interests, skills and passions Jill
brings to the table. He gave me everything I needed in her to be the
perfect woman and helpmate on our spiritual journeys.
God
has done the exact same for both Rob and Ayla and Anton and Kayla.
Don’t ever forget that. People have prayed for who Anton and Ayla would
be Christian partners
with here on this earth for decades. So
when issues arise in your married lives, and they will arise, remember
that. And ask God why He brought your spouse into your life – in a
particular instance
that you might not understand at the time – to shape, mold and teach
you to be more like Him in your journey.
I cannot even begin to imagine who I would be without Jill. I
was 18. I was driven. In some ways, I was mature. In some ways, I was not. I
was self-centered. I had a rough few years prior to meeting her and was a little angry. It
was me fighting
against the world. I loved God, but didn’t really know what it meant. It
was just loving God on my own terms.
Jill was a shining light. Her relationship with Christ was evident to all who came across her. She loves passionately. She cares deeply.
She’s beautiful, smart, resourceful, talented, goofy, driven, while
always wanting to make a memory … taking the ordinary and making it
special. Your
mother used all of those characteristics to nurture and build up both
of you. She’s always wanted the best for you and did everything in her
power to nth
degree to make that happen. After
Ayla was born, Jill didn’t last long in the working mother world. At
the time, I didn’t think it was the smartest decision. It was going from
two similar
incomes to one. We ended up doing without a lot.
Thank God your mom had the strength and drive to make it happen. I
can emphatically say, Ayla and Anton, you would have not ended up as
the well-rounded, caring, Christian people you have become if she had
not sacrificed and
stayed home to shower Christ’s love upon you. I
would not have become the husband, father and man of God without her by
my side to lead, love and support. She’s my best friend. She’s the love
of my life.
Happy
birthday … my Pumpkin, my Cuppy Cake (inside joke) … I cannot imagine
going through a day on this journey on earth without her. I hope and
pray that all
four of you can love your spouse as deeply and as passionately as I
love your mother and future mother-in-law.
Discussion: Men, what are some characteristics you think are important for wives? What are some attributes you see in your fiance that will help grow you?
Prayer: Father, we give You all the glory and thank You for answering our prayers for the future spouses of our children. We continue to uplift all four of them in their future marriage journeys, that they will mutually benefit each other spiritually, edify and support each other. In Jesus' name, Amen.
