Sunday, July 12, 2015

Happy Wedding Day! (read with a British accent)

The Holmes family, from my father's mother's side, came from England. At first I wasn't even going to check out English wedding customs because I thought, seriously, how much more different can they be from American? However, interestingly enough, there are some unique differences.

For example, the reading the banns. This is a legal requirement in England. It's where the intention to marry is announced in your church at least three times in the weeks prior to the wedding. The word "banns" means "so summon." It was originally done for the purpose of discovering if there was any legal reason why the couple shouldn't wed, but it's also a time of announcing the wedding to everyone so they can attend. The reading of the banns needs to take place in both the bride's and groom's church (if they attend different churches).

Interestingly, RSVP cards are not included with invitations. Guests buy and send their own. Prior to the wedding the bride and groom have stag and hen parties verses bachelor and bachelorette events.

For the wedding to be legal, the time is also important. You must marry between 8 a.m. and 6 p.m. The most common time is a noon. Bells ring as the couple enters the church, but a different bell tune plays as they leave for good luck.

The bride wears a horseshoe hanging from her wrist for good luck. In the processional, the bridesmaids follow the bride in to carry her train. By the way, the bride pays for all the bridesmaid dresses in the wedding, which may lead to smaller wedding parties ... and younger wedding parties, which is why you often seen children as bridesmaids in British weddings. The groom usually wears a business suit. He most often does not watch his bride walk down the aisle, but rather faces forward.

Female guests typically wear hats at a British wedding ... like being at the Kentucky Derby.

After the wedding a "care cloth" or bridal canopy is held over the newly married couple, like a huppah. It keeps away evil spirits but also conceals the bride's blushing (kind of like the blusher veil). In some areas of England, as couples leave the church they walk over something that symbolizes their husband's occupation. For example, we would have walked over newspapers. I guess Rob and Ayla would walk over food crumbs and Tone and Kayla over NFL ticket stubs.

Tin cans are often tied to the bumper of the couple's car as a prank.

The post-wedding dinner is sometimes only for close family and close friends. A reception is held later for everyone else to include the dancing.

The tiered wedding cake is usually fruit cake. While that means it could probably last without being frozen for that first anniversary, Brits save that top tier for their first baby's christening instead.

So there you go. Happy Wedding Day!

Discussion: Are any of these wedding traditions of interest to you? Are their any that are particularly odd to you?

Prayer: Father, we are always amazed at the different traditions for weddings around the world. Thank you for all the different things we've learned and the unique stories behind them. In Jesus, Amen.

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